¿Te deprimes cuando ves fotos de modelos en el Instagram?

Si eres una de esas chavas que tiene un IG y te la pasa viendo fotos de las tantas chavas que tienen un cuerpazo, cara linda, maquillaje perfecto y las mil y tantas cosas que las hacen ver espectaculares.

¡Vi este anuncio hoy en mi Instagram!

Y por un momento me dije.. ¿lo bajo? ¿Para ver si sirve o que onda?

Y luego al otro pense… ¿y si es verdad que sirve? ¡WOW! Entonces talvez solo hay una parte tan pequeña que es real de todos esos cuerpazos que vemos muy seguido en el instagram. ¿Será que un 80% de ellos sean falsos?

La modelo que usan en el anuncio de la aplicación ya se ve perfecta y ahora con todas las modificaciones que le hacen a su cuerpo con la app.. No manches!

Y luego andamos todas traumadas que porque no nos vemos como ellas se ven en las fotos.

¡La realidad es que no todo lo que vemos es real!

Así que deja de compararte con esas fotos porque te aseguro que la mayoría están llenas de infinidad de aplicaciones, filtros y photoshop.

¡Eh dicho!

Don’t just settle

That moment when you don’t know what else to do, where to go, nor where to hide your emotions and pretend that everything is perfect.

That moment when you get tired of pretending, but then you think about it and say but I can be happy by not wanting more, by just living and getting by.

I can be okay with just being okay.

but, then your mind catches you back and while you are thinking you can pretend, she tells you… No you can’t!

See your heart is connected to your soul, your soul is connected to your mind, your mind is connected to your body and they all together know that you can’t.

That it does not matter how hard you try to settle for less you just can’t settle with an okay.

YOU are worth too much for a simple “I’m okay” or a simple we are okay and then going on with life like if nothing is happening.

YOU deserve an “I love you every morning”, a “how are you today?”

a simple touch that will make you feel like you are floating and swimming in the ocean with no fear of drowning.

It’s crazy how a simple thing can make us feel IMPORTANT, how a simple thing can make us feel WANTED because when we feel those things we are UNSTOPPABLE!

But what happens when we don’t have someone that cares or sees after us? What do we do? How do we pretend?

All these questions pop up in our head specially if you are single but hey there are so many of us that may be in a relationship and we still feel like we don’t have that someone that cares and looks out for us.

But you know what? We do have someone, we always do! & Fortunately is someone that will never let us down!

We have ourselves!

So don’t wait for someone to make YOU feel those things!

GET UP! GET MOVING!

Look at your self in the mirror and say “I’M BEAUTIFUL”  don’t let him, or her nor them tell you otherwise.

Please don’t stay there paralyzed hoping that one day to another everything will change, because sadly it won’t.

You can’t change others, you can try to change them, you can try to make them love you but you shouldn’t do that because you are worth it and you will find the right one when the time is right.

Listen!

You are BEAUTIFUL and your Soul is as profound and as BLUE and PEACEFUL as the Ocean.

Keep moving forward wave after wave.

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Photo By: Omar Vega

In solitude sometimes is the best way to find yourself, to rediscover who you are to realize that there are so many things within you that will take you even further that will build you and make you stronger.

It’s time to reconnect with your self and START living for YOU TODAY!

¿Porque siempre te comparas con alguien mas?

Aveces ser mujer no es tan facil en esta época de modelos de las redes sociales o talvez no solo aveces sino la mayoria del tiempo.

Son de esas veces en las que te miras en el espejo y no te gusta lo que vez en el.

Talvez porque quisieras verte como alguien más. Como otra mujer que no eres tú. Si tu piel es muy clara te crees estar pálida o demacrada y quisieras tener más color, si tu piel es morena la quisieras tener más clara. Si tus ojos son redondos los quisieras tener rasgados. Si eres muy delgada quisieras tener más carne y así nos vamos con el cuento de nunca acabar, queriendo ser lo que no somos.

Ese espejo te hace sentir más gorda, más nalgona, menos nalgona, más chichona, con menos cintura, menos caderas o más panzona. Aveces te hace sentir derrotada, triste, deprimida porque no ves lo que quieres ver, porque sientes que apesar de haber comenzado esa dieta y esa nueva rutina de ejercicios no vez cambios en tu cuerpo o talvez sientes que te vez peor.

Talvez todas esas cosas que vez en tu newsfeed del face o las fotos en el Instagram te hacen pensar que deberías aparentar o ser alguien que no eres.

Talvez al ver esas fotos de viajes, de chicas bonitas con cuerpos de modelo, de caras hermosas con ese lindo tutorial de maquillaje te deprime, porque talvez no te alcanza para ese viaje que tanto quisieras, o no tienes el tiempo para ver esos tutoriales de belleza y aprenderte a maquillar como una profesional del social media y porque talvez TU si tienes una vida real y aunque tu vida es real te molesta porque tu no puedes o no tienes el tiempo de hacer esas cosas.

Ahora si eres como yo y no tienes tiempo ni de irte de shopping ya sea porque trabajas, estudias, tienes hijos, o andas como loca haciendo mandados te metes en linea y comienzas con tu online shopping para ti y tu familia. Ya sea que visitas la página de Forever 21, Fashion Nova, Zara, Bershka, Old Navy, Bebe, Guess o cualquier página que tenga ofertas y rebajas. Las chavas en todas esas paginas se ven hermosas, jóvenes, la ropa les queda muy bien. Ves lo que te gusta y te imaginas como se mirará en tu cuerpo y te comparas a la modelo. Algunas de esas páginas usan modelos super altas y flacas, sin pecho, ni pompis, ni caderas pero se ven muy bien porque son extremadamente atractivas. Ahora en las otras páginas como Fashion Nova que utiliza a las modelos que tienen un cuerpazo con cinturita, caderas, pecho y super nalgonas, algo así como la Kim Kardashian.

De ahí te quedas viendo y pensando en que categoría cabes. Si mirándote al espejo ves que eres latina pero no tienes caderas, que tienes pecho pero no tienes las piernas largas y tienes el torso corto y no mucha cintura. Así que ahi vas comparandote una vez más y agotandote con lo de que si tienes o no tienes.

Es difícil en este día querer tu aparencia física un poco más porque en el preciso momento en el cual te empiezas a querer y aceptar tu cuerpo tal como es salen más fotos, más vídeos, más post en todas las redes sociales que visitas. Ahora eso es sin considerar tus relaciones, amigas, amigos, tus citas, pareja o esposo si eres casada y sus tantos comentarios que hacen de las fotos de los cuerpos de chavas que ven en sus redes pues de nuevo te vuelven a tambalear.

Entiende que No es su culpa, ni es la tuya.

Es la epidemia de las redes sociales que nos hace adictos a las percepciones.

Es difícil ser una mujer que no tenga inseguridades, que no tema envejecer y de que tu cuerpo no sea el mismo después de convertirte en mama.

Date la oportunidad de verte a ti misma, sin compararte a los demás. Deja de ver esas cosas que te afectan. Concéntrate y  enfocate en ti misma.

Amate, valorate y no te dejes llevar por las apariencias de los demás.

Tu como yo somos hermosas y cada una de nosotras somos únicas como todas las demas.

Does It Make You Happy?

You are insecure, you get nervous when you try to go for something new. You are ready for a change but you are scared of not succeeding.

You want more but you can’t let go of what’s holding you back.

What is it? What holds you back?

Think about it.

Is it what your leaving behind more valuable, more important then where you are going? Does it make you better? Does it make you happy?

Because if that, what you are doing at this specific moment of your life makes you happy… then why change it? But if it doesn’t… then what are you still doing there?

MOVE!

GET OUT!

Stop thinking about change and just begin. Little by little if you really try, you will end up where you need to be.

You can’t get there if you don’t start and if you already have the offer, the opportunity then why not take it?

Think about it… Does it make you happy? Will it make you happy? Will it get you to be happy?

 

 

Confessions Of A Military Wife During Deployment

Such a deep word, well at least for me. Deployment.

It has been more than 8 months since he left home to go overseas. At the beginning I was lost as this was the first deployment that I was going to face in my life and my husband and I had only been together for 2 years and we had just became new parents on 2014 of a beautiful baby girl. Our first baby, my first time being a mom ever, I was lost. I was scared, it was too much for me to take at once. Being a new mom, having a full time job, living alone again.

I had been alone for a lot of years and I mean alone, my parents had separated and in that process we had lost everything they went different ways and I stayed renting a room at an aunts house that offered me her home. I felt alone, with no one there to care for me, to ask for me, to guide me, to love me.

I finally had what I had been looking for, my little family and at the moment of hearing the news at that moment that he told me he was leaving my heart just fell apart, I felt this huge pain on my chest, I felt like I could not breathe. I cried, I just didn’t like the fact of being on my own with my baby.

The first month was the hardest for me, it was the waking up and knowing he was not there. It was the getting on to the usual routine of coming back from work, rushing to get home pick up my baby buy something fast so I could make some dinner.

See him coming up the stairs in the apartment and then having dinner together. It was the getting stranded at the side of the road and me wanting to call him but then being like “wait he is not here” so then to me having to find out, call people, text them for help to see if someone would help me.

It was the getting used to not having him at home to help me with our baby, that if I had to work late or if I had an event I would be like baby can you pick her up today I am still working.  It was those quick runs to the store when I was in the middle of cooking or noticed we did not have milk, diapers, or anything that was needed at that time that he would just run and go get them while I would be at home with our baby.

It was the getting used to, doing it all on my own but now with a baby.

Then the idea started getting in my head that he was no longer home, that I couldn’t just call him and he would be there to help. That it was just me and my beautiful Milan.

We talk every day via the Fb Messenger video call, so that always gives me peace to keep the communication going.

So 1 month, 2 months, 3 months went by and you start getting used to it, you start finding ways on how to do things, when to do them and how to make them work, you adjust. It hurts, you still miss him but you get used to it. You just deal with it. You deal with the fact that it does not matter how you feel or how sad or depress you get that is not going to bring him back so you try to move on, to try to not think about all the moments when he was home because it hurts. You just think and pray that he will be okay and that God gives you the strength to keep moving!

The 4th month comes by, the 5th and the 6th it hits you again. The holidays are coming and this would be the first Christmas that we were going to spend in our first home which we bought while he is still deployed, so that means he has not seen our first home, he has only seen it through pictures and videos. Now this was also a hard process to go by alone with a Full Time Job and a baby but yeah all that happened around September.

In the 6th and 7th month which were November and December those months were a little hard. Spending thanksgiving without my husband which would had been our first Thanksgiving together as a married couple and it would had been our first Christmas as well as a married couple. So yeah with this deployment we have missed a lot of first times. It does not mean we cannot recreate but the time lost never comes back.

There are a lot of things that Military families sacrifice, a lot of military moms that are living like a single mom, struggling holding the fork at home, keeping it together. Some are full time moms, some are full time moms and full time employees, some are going to school, working and taking care of their kids.

It is just hard. From my own perspective you really need to love your husband with all your heart to support them. Military life is not for all. It is not for the selfish, it is not for the greedy, it is not for the unfaithful, it is not for the weak.

Deployment really has it’s way of testing your love, your loyalty, your friendship, your mind, your soul.

I am still in the deployment period he is not coming home yet, we still have several months to go to be back together again.

I can tell you that this deployment has changed my life, my perspective towards life, it has renewed myself, it has made me stronger, appreciate life, open my eyes to my surroundings, it has made me a good mom, a good wife, a good employee, a good person.

It allowed me to find myself, after being lost and afraid of being alone. It made me see that nothing is impossible that I am a women capable of so many things and that their is no limit to pursue my dreams and strive every day to be better for my baby and for my husband.

I am not saying I like this deployment because I don’t, what I am saying is that we are the ones that make it what we want it to be. Have your Soldiers back and they should always have yours. Don’t let them down and support them through this difficult journey.

Soldier On, because that’s what moms do.

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Married & Flirting: When Is It Too Far?

So this one is a good one, how far is it too far? Married and flirting when is it too far.

I know boys will be boys and there is no stopping them in flirting with other girls, I mean totally get it they want to feel like they still got it and they can pull anything that wears a skirt and gives them a little smile.

That just blows their mind, that tiny moment exchanging smiles and simple conversations with some other girl that of course it is not your wife.

But when is it too far? I will tell you in that split second when the little smiles, turn into a conversation and that conversation leads to a phone number exchange,  an email, a social media friend request or any other communication platform that says we will connect further and continue this flirting stage into more conversations.

That right there has gone too far. You might be asking your self but why? if it is just a “new friend” it is “nothing more”.

Let me go back to that moment that you took her number and you did not even care to stop and say hey sorry but I am MARRIED and I have children. It was really nice talking to you.

No you went ahead and took the number, the email, the name, the request etc. Which means you took it little to far.. possibly falling into the first stage of cheating.

In all this setting there was no mention to your wife about this encounter, this “new friend” that you made while in a business trip, a guys night out, during a deployment or any other location. You are thousands of miles away, you have a family back home but you didn’t care.

All you cared about is that simple little moment of feeling special and the fact that you are talking and starting a new relationship with another girl that is not your wife.

That flirting right there is when it’s gone too far.

If you are in an open relationship a very open marriage then this might not be too far if you 2 have agreed to flirt with others and create new encounters, new relationships with other people and still manage to be good with each other.

Just think about it of when you are at the verge of going to far, I will say it’s so simple. Just think about what you would not be okay with your wife doing behind your back. What you think being in that reverse place and it makes you upset because your wife did it. That right there is how you know… when you or her have gone to far.

Now don’t get me wrong I am a girl and of course if I see a handsome guy or he is giving me a little of attention and he approaches me for a conversation I wouldn’t deny a conversation and if I am interested in continuing that conversation further than what we just had at that moment then I would take his number but this is, if I was Single!

I would not doubt it and I would take his digits in a heart beat but being Married I don’t think my husband would be too happy if he found out that I had been exchanging my number and connecting with another guy just so we can be friends.

I don’t think there is a problem with flirting or seeing other girls and thinking they are cute, have a nice body or are very attractive. Same goes to women I don’t think their is anything wrong on seeing a guy and thinking they are Hot!  We are humans and we are not blind and not because we are married means that we don’t notice these things. But theirs is that fine line right on the edge of flirting and falling in to cheating. It all starts with  exchanging a number.

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What do you think?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Night Thoughts

Right before closing your eyes, there laying in bed. They start coming out, your head starts spinning with no alcohol in your system. It’s just you… thinking, thinking and thinking how would things be?

How difficult they get and if tomorrow would be easier?
You have faith but you get extremely exhausted of always having it and being positive about everything.

You go over everyone in your life that has crossed your path and you realize how alone you are.

Some things bother you , and it is not because you don’t have them but because you wish you had a hand out from someone to help get on your feet.

It seems like you keep fighting against the system that is never going to change  and it sucks! Those thoughts at night always come up, the ones that keep you awake and don’t let you sleep the ones that don’t want the next day to be here soon or the ones that just want to fast forward life until another season.

Night Thoughts.

¿Y Tu, Que Tan Lejos Quieres Llegar?

Cada día que pasa te das cuenta que no todas las personas a tu alrededor la tienen tan fácil, que algunas tendrán mas dinero pero tal vez mas problemas, mas deudas, mas enemigos.

Estas parada en medio de la multitud, por primera vez dejas de hablar y congelada en el tiempo ves que todas las personas van o se dirigen hacia algún lugar.

Algunos solo caminan si tener una meta, ni un destino. Solo caminan.

Otros van tan determinados que no ven las distracciones a su alrededor, ni toman en cuenta las personas que van pasando y dejando a tras en su camino.

Te quedas paralizada y pensando hacia donde vas tu? volteas hacia tras y ves que has llegado tan lejos que tal vez no era lo que tenias planeado para tu vida pero que has hecho todo lo posible por vivirla por luchar a ser feliz día a día!

Que a pesar de que muchos a tu alrededor no han hecho nada por ayudarte lo bueno es que no tantos te han estorbado, si has tropezado varias veces, te has caído miles de veces pero como quiera has decidido seguir hacia delante.

Y hoy, hoy te preguntas que tan lejos quieres llegar…

Analizate, anota todos tus logros, tus metas y todas aquellas cosas pendientes que tienes, que quieres terminar para empezar muchas mas!

 

 

 

Stay Trendy, Edgy & Classy With “The Jumpsuit”

Valerie

You can never go wrong with “the Jumpsuit”

Si quieres ir a una boda, talvez a una cena o hasta al Club. El Jumpsuit tiene clase y con los accesorios correctos lo puedes moldear a ti y a tu manera para darle tu personalidad.

Puedes comprar todo el atuendo por solo unos $50.00 incluyendo accesorios.lauren

Algunas tiendas serian:
Forever 21
H&M
Ross
Marshalls

Mantente siempre a la vanguardia y siempre cómoda, no trates de vestirte como alguien que no eres. Siempre mantente única!

Los Ciclos De La Vida Segun Yo

En algunas ocasiones uno no entiende los hechos ni las acciones de otras personas, solo ve cada uno por sus propios interéses.
Cada etapa viene acompañada de diferentes personas, diferentes amistades, diferentes caras.

Cada fase es diferente.
Si sales, si no sales y si sales con quien sales.
Son ciclos en los cuales de un momento a otro llegan a su fin.

Los ciclos podrían ser proyectados en durar un promedio de 5 años.

De los 13 a los 18 Tal vez aun llevamos los amigos de la secundaria y la prepa y nos juntamos aún fuera de la escuela y el verano, pero se llega el fin y a comenzar nuestro viaje a la nueva vida, para unos la Universidad, para otros el trabajo y otros simplemente cambio de lugar. Habrá esos amigos que a pesar de la distancia aún mantendrán esa comunicación sólo para no olvidar de dónde vienen y hasta que lejos han llegado.

De los 18 a los 23 la plena juventud, los amigos, los clubs, los bares y todo lo que tenga que ver con vivír en el extasis total. Diversión, Ropa nueva, Fiestas, amistades, muchas amistades! Todo se ve facil, todo es un momento, un momento en cual algunos aprovechan bien y otros lo dejan pasar. Unos toman buenas decisiones se enfocan al studio, otros a solo trabajar. Algunos dicen aun estoy joven tengo tiempo para poderme equivocar.

De los 23 a los 28 nos va pegando la realidad, las deudas, el trabajo, la renta. Las preguntas de la sociedad. Si fuiste a la Universidad talvez estas apunto de graduarte, si te fuiste directo al trabajo ya estas cansado de estar en el mismo lugar, quieres algo Nuevo algo que te pague mas. Trabajas mas duro, le echas mas ganas para conseguir lo que siempre querias y ya no regresar. En esta fase talvez te has casado, juntado, enamorado, divorciado o estas esperando un bebe ya.

De los 23 a los 28 aun no termino pero es el ciclo en el que me encuentro ya. Y deja te cuento que eh perdido amigos, eh perdido familiares, ya no salgo a muchas fiestas, que tengo casi 2 años que no salgo de compras, ni me pongo una borrachera. Pero tengo una bebe Hermosa por la cual me levanto todos los dias y rezo a Dios que me permita vivir mas ciclos para verla crecer y vivir los de ella.

Estos son los Ciclos De La Vida Segun Yo.

Ya Se Vienen Otra Vez Las Fechas Tristes

El otro día de la nada me llega un mensaje de mi hermano:

“…Ya vienen otra ves las fechas tristes jenn, yo creo que estas son las mas difíciles para un preso igual que los fines de semana…”

Y sabes que, no me saco de onda el mensaje, si no que me hizo pensar. Me hizo recordar lo fácil que la tenemos nosotros los libres. Los que podemos hacer lo que queremos cuando queremos e ir a donde queramos cuando queramos.  Si, tal vez es el privilegio de hacer las cosas bien; ya sabes, dentro de lo que indica la ley.  Y pues tal vez ese es el precio que tienen que pagar ellos por equivocarse en la vida. Aunque, quisiera que me dijeran quien no se ah equivocado en esta vida.  Lo triste es de que te hace reflexionar en todas esa personas que se encuentran solos. No necesariamente los presos, si no todos aquellos que se han quedado solos aun estando libres y no encerrados dentro de 4 paredes forzosamente si no por decisión propia.

Siempre eh sentido que esta época de la navidad es una de las temporadas mas felices y a la vez una de las temporadas mas nostálgicas para algunos de nosotros.

Todo el año no la pasamos trabajando, estudiando, luchando y sumergidos en la rutina. Esa rutina inmensa que parece un laberinto, que no nos da tiempo de pensar en nuestro alrededor,  Solo vamos cegados por la vida tratando de sobrevivir y salir adelante con los gastos, las facturas, las deudas y entre otras tantas cosas que no tienen importancia.

Nos vamos recorriendo el año como los caballos de carrera, con esas mascaras que les ponen y no los dejan ver lo que hay a su alrededor. Solo ven la meta que se encuentra al final del camino.

Y así nosotros de repente,  al momento de llegarse las ultimas fechas de Noviembre y acercándose el mes de Diciembre empezamos a poner el freno y a ver que vamos hacer, que planes se harán para esas fechas tan esperadas de Diciembre. Si tienes papas, pues ya comienzas a contemplar el visitarlos para pasarte el 24 con ellos y la navidad. O si tienes hermanos, tíos, primos o estas casado, casada se empiezan hacer los planes… de que “nos vamos a visitar a tus papas el 24 y a los míos el 25 y así para los dos ver a su familia y pasarla de nuevo juntos otra navidad”.

Y sabes que como estas tan contento y feliz no te llega a la cabeza ni siquiera el pensar que tal vez tienes a un amigo o una amiga, prima, familiar que en esta temporada, este año ha perdido a alguien en su vida, o esta preso, o trabajando en otro país, o es soldado y se encuentra al otro lado del mundo separado de las personas que el o ella mas quiere. Que mientras tu tienes toda la mesa llena, hay personas que tienen una silla vacía.

Si eres feliz, que bueno! Se feliz! Si solo te preocupas por ti y no por las personas a tu alrededor pues es tu decision. Lo único que te aconsejo es de que: Disfrutes a tu familia hoy! De que no desaproveches la oportunidad que tienes de abrazarlos. De abrazar a tu papa, a tu mama, a tu hermano, hermana.  De verlos y tenerlos a tu lado y sentir que esos momentos que estas viviendo no quisieras que se fueran si no que se quedaran congelados en tu vida por un largo momento.

En esta vida no todos somos los afortunados, en esta vida hay personas que no tendrán donde pasar la noche, mujeres que están siendo golpeadas, niños que serán abandonados por sus propios padres, narcotraficantes que serán detenidos y que por su egoísmo dejaran en la calle a su familia entera. Lastima, que el mundo no es tan bonito como uno quisiera que fuera. O tal vez si lo es, pero depende de cada uno de nosotros para cambiarlo y alimentarlo.

Tal como una rosa depende del jardinero para que le ponga agua, para que la proteja de la helada y la mantenga roja, verde y viva.

En esta temporada, dale alojo a una persona necesitada. Y no me refiero necesariamente de que los invites a tu casa, si no de que les demuestres que tu estas ahí. Tal vez esa persona esta mas cerca de ti de lo que te imaginas. Podría ser tu hermana, tu primo, prima o un amigo. En esta época de redes sociales, no es tan difícil conectarte con alguien y mandarle un mensaje.  Puede que ese mensaje cambie su perspectiva de la vida. Un simple Hola, como estas? Podría ayudarle con la nostalgia y lo triste que puede ser esta navidad.

Aveces Me Siento Perdida

Aveces me siento muy triste, aveces me siento perdida. Como que lo quiero todo y al final no quiero nada.

Aveces siento mucho coraje por la vida, no sueño con perderla solo con cambiarla.

Siento que no todos los que me rodean son sinceros, que hasta los más cercanos quieren lastimarme.

Que talvez el que dice que mas me quiere es el que menos me soporta.

Y que el que más me odia, en lo más profundo quisiera que no fuese así.

No se, en esta vida casi siempre me siento perdida. Con miles de preguntas que no logró encontrar respuestas.

¿Qué es lo más importante en tu vida? ¿Será que lo más importante es tu familia? ¿tu carrera? ¿O el simple hecho de sentir que ya la hiciste? ¿Qué todo parece marchar bien, por ahora? Hmm.

No lo se. Si tu sabes cual es la respuesta no dudes en decirmelo.

Me gustaria escucharte. Déjame tu comentario.

Jen

Deployed To Assist In Hurricane Relief Operations

And off he went to help with hurricane relief operations.

I am proud to be his wife and see him doing what he loves. 😍

You would think that saying goodbye gets easier with time but it doesn’t seem like it does.😭

It doesn’t matter if I am saying goodbye for a weekend, a week, months or a year. It’s always the same feeling. That thing you feel in your stomack and in your heart and no, it’s not butterflies. It’s a feeling that I sometimes cannot explain.

I feel happy to see him go to help others, I feel proud of being married to him for serving others, I feel honor, I feel like I am a part of everything that he does even if I am not the one wearing the uniform but in the other hand I also feel sad, worried, confused hoping deep down that he is not gone for long. I feel like I’ll be alone again with my 3 year old and I am going to have to make adjustments again, you know the little things I guess.

Like now having to wake up an Hour earlier than usual and drive 30 miles west from my house to now drop her off at school then head back pass my house to drive East and make it on time to work in downtown or having to cancel my recently registered boot camp that I had signed up to do for the month of September considering that he would be home sleeping with Olesya while I would try to “work out” hehe (I don’t work out) this was going to be myself forcing to get into the “fit mom club” haha well that will have to wait but I mean those things are not important.

What is important is that I support him and that I love him for him.

One thing that does make me a little emotional is seing that Olesya is now older & already knows that when papi puts on his uniform she won’t be able to see him through the night. She now says “Papi Army”. She looks at him and says:

“Papi you go Army? Don’t go Army”.

It’s the little things that we as military spouse’s have to live with. The constant goodbyes, the long distance relationship, the being mom and dad at the same time when your service member is deployed. Despite all of those things…

I am proud of my Soldier!🇺🇸

I am happy that through him we are able to help in some way the victims of #HurricaneHarvey.

Because I may be the wife that stays back home but I will never stop praying for his and everyone else’s safety. 🙏

#TexasStrong #ArmyStrong #Harvey #Helpingothers #Pray #UnityThroughPrayers #family #Prayerchain #hope #faith

Leaving the Job I Dreamed Of When I Was Growing Up

So many mixed emotions and after almost 8 years February 16 was my last day at CBS Radio. Not the easiest decision considering that I always dreamed of working in Radio when I was a teenager growing up in Mexico.
I remember I used to ride in the car listening to the radio and wonder how that music and the DJ ON air would come out through those speakers & How would it feel to be the one on the other side?
Fresh out of High School and thanks to my Tia Marta Leticia that met a General Manager who’s son was a patient at the Clinic where she used to work at and talked about me and my passion for music and radio got her card for me to call her and apply for a part time gig in promotions at Clear Channel Radio now IHeart Media.
I believe I was 18 when I got that gig getting paid minimum wage driving from Cedar Hill all the way by the Galleria Mall without any highway driving experience, I mean I learned how to drive in Mexico since I was 13 but the roads do not compare to these huge freeways and being that I had just moved here from MX I barley knew how to drive on them but that did not stop me.

I went to Mountain View in the morning, helped my parents at the bakery at midday in Oak cliff then headed to work promotions in the afternoon.
My step dad hated me working in radio, he would bump in to me sometimes in the parking lots of a supermarket while I was working during a Van Hit in the middle of the summer putting bumper stickers on cars and he would say “is this what you came to the US to do? To put bumper stickers on cars? And stand out in the sun all day for $7.25 an hour”. And I would just look smile and greet another listener. You know for me that was my dream, as ridiculous as it may sound, working at the radio station was everything for me. I Stayed at La Preciosa for a year left because my step dad hated Radio for me and one day helping my parents at the bakery closer to my time to go to the station my stepdad did not allow me to leave the bakery and made me call my boss and quit my job over the phone. I was crying, I was mad because there was nothing I could do. Yes, I was 18 but that was his car not mine, that was his bakery not mine and I lived at their house not mine, So I became a limited lines car insurance sales agent lasted a year when I hear a new Radio Station that played Latin pop was in town. Left my $14 an hr insurance job I had gotten at 19 to go back to Radio at 21 to get paid $7.50.

Took a major pay cut for me in that time but it was the Passion that I had for Radio that didn’t make me think of the pay. Yes, I struggled. I was trying to go to school, work and make it with minimum wage which thanks to God, I could by living at my parents house.
From there, I kept moving on. I started picking up every shift, every event, working weekends, holidays learning as much as I could.

Board Operating, production, voice overs, traffic, events, operations, promotions, ideation, on air shifts, everything. Name the shift, I would work it. Eventually after a yr and a half from $7.50 I got a raised due to working in the office and doing a Promotions Coordinator job to $10.

I was scheduling brand ambassadors, creating content for the website, executing on air promotions and assisting the promotions department, then after that another year went by the opened a full time position to be a coordinator for Mega and 98.7 KLUV which I was already doing the job of a coordinator as a part timer for Mega 107.5. I interviewed for the position but since I was not too familiar with KLUVs format I was not selected. So another person got the promotion and I kept working as a part timer.

Long story short they separated the position and opened up the position just for Mega which then got offered to me after 3 years. Obviously I took it since I was going to get benefits and a now full time job. Things got a little crazy for me at times, work was always my escape. I started on the air as the traffic reporter for the afternoon show with Pelos Parados then later added weekends on Mega 107.5 while I was also running the promotions team and executing events, contest and all that good stuff!

It was all about work, work, work! I enjoyed helping people, being in media allowed me to help a lot of people either directly or indirectly with fundraising events, to free music festivals, concerts benefiting great causes, to creating food drives, toy drives and tons of awesome things for the community.

So even when I wanted to leave that always kept pulling me back. I went on and kept going on, the work kept increasing the pay never did. I was overwork, unappreciated and I went through periods where all that mattered to me was to have everything taken care of at the radio station. I knew I had to get out, I knew it was not healthy for me, I was under the direction of very sexist boss, who was infatuated with me and got mad because I wouldn’t go out with him. He tried, he tried really hard to make me go out with him and he could not handle rejection. I saved up my money, stuck it out for a couple of months then when I felt I could survive for a couple of months. I Quit! I put my 2 weeks notice and left that place. I needed to leave to find something else. I was going through a lot personally from my parents separating and losing every thing including our home. I was homeless for a minute and my aunt took me in. I just couldn’t help it. I needed to leave in that process I was offered a job in Hollywood working for a movie agency, recommend by a good friend and while I was interviewing in their office in LA. I received a call from the radio station offering me a position and letting me know that all prior management were no longer there and that they wanted me back!

They offered me $45,000 for a position where I would be working for the station I have worked so hard for Mega 107.5 so i just couldn’t refuse the offer. Once back in things were different, the atmosphere was better and I was happy again!

But then came another restructuration at the same time that my husband was deployed in Afghanistan (I met my husband back in my college days but reconnected when I quit my job and took a part time at Barnes and Noble) the restructuration consisted of me now overseeing La Grande 107.5 which was previously La Mega, then 98.7 KLUV (the station I didn’t get the full time position for back when I applied) and then 1080KRLD.

Life is crazy, well I had to take the responsibility since there was no other option but to take it or quit the job. My pay did not go up, so I kept the same salary and was now doing the job of 3 people. (Not too strange in radio). My husband was deployed so again I went ahead and took the challenges being busy didn’t leave me with much time to think that he was gone and that I was once again alone but not only with myself but with our 1 y/o baby girl.

Times were hard but passion kept me going, my dream kept me going.

The times I spent at CBS were a rollercoaster they were fun, they were stressfull, they made me mad, angry, hopeless, smart, knowledgeable and most importantly at my time in CBS I made some of the strongest friendships.

So saying goodbye to radio was not that easy buy I knew it was my time to move on and go on to my next adventure.

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Padrastro Escribe:

hola  hija como estas?

pues pago este servisio para estar mas en contacto con tigo enana para mas fasil para ti y ni asi me contestas enana fea que onda con tigo? tu sabe aki tiene ganos uno de platicar con la familia pero pues ya nadi se acuerda de uno.
Respuesta de la hijastra:

Hola! Estamos bien gracias por no darte por vencido.

Aveces las cosas pasan y no se dan como uno quisiera pero todo es resultado de los errores que cometimos o cometemos. Sómos Humanos y es entendible el sentirnos perdidos,.solo en momentos difíciles que sentimos que nadie nos quiere o se preocupa por nosotros pero nunca entendemos que las otras personas pueden estar pasando por otras cosas personales que no las dejan ver más aya de ellas mismas.